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If you allow it, the military career will take more than it gives. It can challenge the strongest military marriage and seduce military leaders into believing their career is more important than WHO they become. The Lifegiver podcast began as a way to encourage, inspire, and bring hope to leaders and military couples when they feel burned out and they’ve lost their way. For almost 20 years, I have served the military and veteran population as a counselor, speaker, author, and subject matter expert on military culture. Lifegiver offers discussions and interviews on personal and leadership development and ways to breathe life into your military marriage and home. Real stories, expert interviews, and honest conversation.
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Monday Oct 26, 2020
Monday Oct 26, 2020
Derek Abbey, PhD is a retired Marine and CEO of Project Recover joins me for a fascinating interview where we talk about the importance of leaving a legacy and how Project Recover is healing families’ stories.
Project Recover, an international nonprofit that uses the latest in science, technology and archival research, with a mission to find and repatriate the remains of fallen American troops.
Derek Abbey says there are 82,000 Americans in uniform missing in the world today. Around 7,000 of those are from the Korean War, with another 1,600 missing from Vietnam and Southeast Asia. A staggering 72,000 are missing from World War II, a conflict in which sixteen million Americans served or about 12% of the population.
Here is a little of what we cover:
- How his 23 years of military service, including his deployments to Iraq and the Far East as a fighter pilot, saved his own life and have influenced him to support the mission of finding and returning fallen service members home. Derek holds more combat hours than hours in peaceful skies, and also served with the Marine Raiders in Afghanistan.
- WWII American troop discovery stories and first-hand insights on the overall recovery experience
- How families can be impacted by loss for generations after a war has ended
- Examples of how Project Recover leverages technology and partnerships with University of Delaware and Scripps Institution of Oceanography at the University of California San Diego in an attempt to find MIA soldiers
- How Derek’s values centered approach guides his professional and personal life
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Oct 12, 2020
Monday Oct 12, 2020
Matt and I did a webinar and Q&A on the Insanity Cycle that happens too often in marriage conflict. It was a two hour event, the first hour public and the second a private Q&A over Zoom with registered participants.
This is the first hour where Matt and I walk you through why couples find themselves looping sometimes on the same argument- for years. It is common for couples to get into an unhealthy pattern of triggering each other. Getting out of that pattern is the hard part. Once you start triggering each other, it is hard to get out of that downward spiral we call the Insanity Cycle. Are you ready to change the way you and your spouse fight? Are you ready to end the unhealthy patterns and get back to respecting each other?
Here is some of what we cover in this episode:
- A walk through the Insanity Cycle and how couples stay stuck in it
- How a couple tends to include a Pursuer and a Withdrawer
- How you are both feeling and saying the same thing but not hearing each other
- How the Pursuer and Withdrawer trigger each other to continue the Insanity Cycle
- Ways you can stop the Cycle of hurt and destruction in your marriage
- How you can play the "Maturity Game" speak lifegiving truth to your spouse
If you would like to hear Part 2, where we take your questions and dive deeper, you can find it on the LG Shop! This digital download includes Part 1 & 2 Videos as well as a listening guide to help you apply it to your life and marriage. While you're there, take a look at some of the other digital downloads as well!
Monday Oct 05, 2020
Monday Oct 05, 2020
It's a BONUS episode of The Lifegiver Podcast! We knew wrapping up the parenting series would not be complete without talking about our youth and college age kids. There is a lot of anxiety on returning to college during COVID season and that is on top of the stress families already have about paying for college!
Anthony O'Neal, author, speaker, and Dave Ramsey Personality joins us to talk about how right now could be one of the best times to go back to college debt-free. Anthony wrote the best-selling book, "Destroy Your Student Loan Debt" and travels the country talking with parents and college students about how they can avoid the mistakes he did.
Listen in as he shares his story, tells you how college is way more affordable than you think, and how you can take advantage of this season to make it more affordable. By the way, Anthony also grew up as a military kid with his father in the Army and understands the stressors of military life!
Find out more about Anthony O'Neal Here: https://www.anthonyoneal.com/
or listen to his show on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/user/aonealministries
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Sep 28, 2020
Monday Sep 28, 2020
It is the end of the Parenting Series on the Lifegiver Podcast! There have been so many wonderful guests during this season and Corie wraps it up with an episode about raising teens. Reflecting on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Corie explains how you can help your child through the difficulty of establishing better routines in the chaos of COVID and school as well as how helping them find their place of belonging can mean everything.
Here is the Awareness Wheel, created by Couples communication that is referenced in this episode.
Listen to Corie's original episode on Maslow's Ladder: https://www.life-giver.org/the-secret-of-resilience/
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Sep 14, 2020
Monday Sep 14, 2020
Sleep issues and separation anxiety are a real thing for so many parents. With today's anxiety and fear during COVID and back to school criteria, children's fears can manifest at night leaving you frustrated, exhausted and hopeless. Without a good night's sleep, you and your children will struggle to function. In this episode, I talk with Colleen, a dedicated spouse of a veteran and mom of three boys with a master’s degree in psychology. After years of sleep deprivation and exhaustion with her own son, Colleen was inspired to write her first book about a magical knight- a bear that was determined to protect children from their fears. She wanted to help other moms and young children which led to the creation of Sir William the Brave Knight.
Listen in as she shares her story, hope for yours and some ways you can find your own peace and courage to help your children whatever they might be facing.
If you would like to find out more or order your own Sir William the Brave Knight: https://magicalorderofbraveknights.com
If you are interested in strengths coaching, please make an appointment at www.corieweathers.com.
Find resources (including the Lifegiver Newsletter) for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Aug 31, 2020
Monday Aug 31, 2020
“Few things are as difficult for parents as watching their kids struggle. It's especially hard not knowing how to help them!”
Now more than ever, mental health and behavioral issues are climbing which can be pretty scary as a parent. Many military and first responder families take the leap to get help from their child only to have to move or start over. Do you ever feel like you are wasting precious time waiting for all of them to communicate and start making progress? How many times has your child acted out on a weekend and you wish the professional could have seen it themselves but they aren’t open until Monday? Meet Tommy Black. He’s a clinician that teamed up with some other really cool professionals that made an app to get your child’s wellness back into your hands again. ESTEEM is an app that helps parents track their child’s emotional and behavioral challenges. Complete with resources, tracking software, and more, you can have complete control of your child’s healthcare at your fingertips. Receive automated goals that encourage progress. Celebrate small wins that add up to big improvements! ESTEEM also makes it super easy to have teachers, counselors, and any other other professionals share important information about how your child is doing in one place so you can make the best decision for your child. Join us as we talk about why he created the app as well as some really encouraging words about how you can parent through the COVID crisis. You will love this interview!
Download the ESTEEM App today: https://www.chooseesteem.com/
If you are interested in strengths coaching, please make an appointment at www.corieweathers.com.
Find resources (including the Lifegiver Newsletter) for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Aug 17, 2020
Monday Aug 17, 2020
What kind of relationship do you have with the public school system? Does it give you anxiety? Do you feel like you are always trying to advocate for your child- especially if you relocate a lot? What if we could all work together (better) just a little bit more? What if (like any other relationship) we listened more and built a relationship of understanding?
I invited Dr. Keith Mispagel, superintendent of Fort Leavenworth School District 207 to the podcast. He has a doctorate in military child transition and studied what kids need to be resilient and thrive academically. Even more, his district transitions almost 1,200 new military families every summer for the Command and General Staff College that teaches some of our military's most competitive officers To put it plainly, he is a rockstar leading his staff in welcoming and helping children of all ages transition only to do it all again the next year. I can honestly say it was the best year ever for my kids (who were weary of transition as it was). He is now teaching other districts how to build better relationships with military parents and kids.
Listen in as we talk about the school-parent relationship and what the public schools are going through to make the next year a safer one for our kids.
If you are interested in strengths coaching, please make an appointment at www.corieweathers.com
Find resources (including the Lifegiver Newsletter) for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Aug 03, 2020
Monday Aug 03, 2020
Are you struggling with making a decision about whether your kids should go back to school with COVID numbers still climbing? This is possibly one of the most stressful decisions our culture of parents have ever had to make. If your kids have been in private or public school settings pre-COVID, how do you decide whether they go back when there are reports of children dying? In this Lifegiver LIVE, we talk about the questions I’m hearing in my sessions as well as questions you’ve submitted. We talk about
- How to talk with your kids about this decision
- Their opinions about COVID
- How schools are shifting standards
- How to calm your anxiety about this decision
If you are interested in strengths coaching, please make an appointment at www.corieweathers.com
Find resources (including the Lifegiver Newsletter) for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn