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If you allow it, the military career will take more than it gives. It can challenge the strongest military marriage and seduce military leaders into believing their career is more important than WHO they become. The Lifegiver podcast began as a way to encourage, inspire, and bring hope to leaders and military couples when they feel burned out and they’ve lost their way. For almost 20 years, I have served the military and veteran population as a counselor, speaker, author, and subject matter expert on military culture. Lifegiver offers discussions and interviews on personal and leadership development and ways to breathe life into your military marriage and home. Real stories, expert interviews, and honest conversation.
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Tuesday Feb 09, 2021
Tuesday Feb 09, 2021
The USO is launching a new virtual series with Corie and Matt Weathers on how military families can stay strong while apart. Corie and Matt Weathers will share how they are keeping their military marriage strong through a season apart - as well as tips for how you can do the same.
Tools and concepts discussed during the series apply to all types of military-initiated separations; from deployments and trainings, to geo-bachelor tours, unaccompanied tours, and even third shift schedules.
This episode is Part 1 of The Tension Before You Go- So many couples struggle with tension and emotions all over the place before you rip the bandaid to spent that time apart. Matt and Corie cover what they went through and what many other couples describe as one of the most challenging times a couple can go through in the military.
To access the Series dashboard, including the videos and handouts: https://www.uso.org/campaign/mvp-youre-leaving-again
If you are looking for professional help, be sure to check out the LIfegiver Directory- full of clinicians that understand your lifestyle. Many of them are military spouses and veterans. find it here: www.lifegiverdirectory.com
Find out more about me www.corieweathers.com or www.life-giver.org
Monday Dec 14, 2020
Monday Dec 14, 2020
How do you decide when to hold steadfast and persevere? When to walk away? When to run away? Life is a gamble, a risk. We do everything we can to make good, right decisions with what we have in the moment. Yet the hardest thing to do is walking away and saying "no". It feels like too big of a risk. Yet, this year has gotten too big for all of us- asking us to make a choice. You can't do it all and neither can I. Listen in for updates on how 2020 affected me and what I am doing with the cards I have in hand.
Interested in Joining Fight Club- A Virtual Support Group for Military & First Responder Spouses? Starts Jan 11, 2021 Apply here: https://forms.gle/RCf8jYnq5bdkEZiHA
The Gambler, by Kenny Rogers
On a train bound for nowhere
I met up with the gambler
We were both too tired to sleep
So we took turns a-starin'
Out the window at the darkness
The boredom overtook us
And he began to speak
Out of readin' people's faces
Knowin' what the cards were
By the way they held their eyes
So if you don't mind my sayin'
I can see you're out of aces
For a taste of your whiskey
I'll give you some advice"
And he drank down my last swallow
Then he bummed a cigarette
And asked me for a light
And the night got deathly quiet
And his face lost all expression
Said, "If you're gonna play the game, boy
You gotta learn to play it right
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealin's done
That the secret to survivin'
Is knowin' what to throw away
And knowin' what to keep
'Cause every hand's a winner
And every hand's a loser
And the best that you can hope for
Is to die in your sleep"
He turned back toward the window
Crushed out his cigarette
Faded off to sleep
And somewhere in the darkness
The gambler he broke even
But in his final words
I found an ace that I could keep
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run
You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealin's done
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Nov 23, 2020
Monday Nov 23, 2020
What if I told you I found the cure for the common cough? Well, it actually wasn’t me, but after our son fought an “Asthmatic cough” for four years we finally came across Dr. Weinberger and the “Habit Cough”. Joining me for this episode is Dennis Buettner, a Cough Research Director for Dr. Miles Weinberger, MD. and a veteran that works with NASA.
Dennis’s daughter Bethany went through the same thing our son did- coughing up to 5,000 times a day with no answers. Like many of you out there who are trying to find answers, both of our families went through endless doctors, diagnoses, and medications before doctors finally threw up their hands with nothing left to offer.
Dennis finally stumbled on some research about a pulmonologist who found the cure for the cough through suggestive therapy- teaching kids to be attentive to their bodies and stopping the cough in as little as 10 minutes! Bethany was able to stop her cough, so was our son, and now Dennis is spreading the word about how if you or someone you know can answer one question of his- you can stop the cough too.
Seriously, Dr. Weinberger has changed our lives. More importantly, he gave my son back his.
For more on Dr. Weinberger and the Habit Cough: https://www.habitcough.com/
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Nov 09, 2020
Monday Nov 09, 2020
Derek Abbey, PhD joins me again! I enjoyed my last conversation so much with Derek, I invited him back to share his research on transitioning into the veteran space. Derek says that there are important stages we should all go through in order to help us mature as well-functioning adults. The military sets the perfect conditions by providing almost everything we need as adults. It provides community, a way to progress through rank and accomplishment, and makes many of our decisions for us.
Although the military “saved his life”, Derek shares what he has learned from helping veterans take the next big step in their lives in higher education and helping veterans take the next big step in their lives. The result was a fascinating conversation on what we all need to do to evolve to a better version of ourselves.
Derek Abbey, PhD is a retired Marine and CEO of Project Recover.
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Oct 26, 2020
Monday Oct 26, 2020
Derek Abbey, PhD is a retired Marine and CEO of Project Recover joins me for a fascinating interview where we talk about the importance of leaving a legacy and how Project Recover is healing families’ stories.
Project Recover, an international nonprofit that uses the latest in science, technology and archival research, with a mission to find and repatriate the remains of fallen American troops.
Derek Abbey says there are 82,000 Americans in uniform missing in the world today. Around 7,000 of those are from the Korean War, with another 1,600 missing from Vietnam and Southeast Asia. A staggering 72,000 are missing from World War II, a conflict in which sixteen million Americans served or about 12% of the population.
Here is a little of what we cover:
- How his 23 years of military service, including his deployments to Iraq and the Far East as a fighter pilot, saved his own life and have influenced him to support the mission of finding and returning fallen service members home. Derek holds more combat hours than hours in peaceful skies, and also served with the Marine Raiders in Afghanistan.
- WWII American troop discovery stories and first-hand insights on the overall recovery experience
- How families can be impacted by loss for generations after a war has ended
- Examples of how Project Recover leverages technology and partnerships with University of Delaware and Scripps Institution of Oceanography at the University of California San Diego in an attempt to find MIA soldiers
- How Derek’s values centered approach guides his professional and personal life
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Oct 12, 2020
Monday Oct 12, 2020
Matt and I did a webinar and Q&A on the Insanity Cycle that happens too often in marriage conflict. It was a two hour event, the first hour public and the second a private Q&A over Zoom with registered participants.
This is the first hour where Matt and I walk you through why couples find themselves looping sometimes on the same argument- for years. It is common for couples to get into an unhealthy pattern of triggering each other. Getting out of that pattern is the hard part. Once you start triggering each other, it is hard to get out of that downward spiral we call the Insanity Cycle. Are you ready to change the way you and your spouse fight? Are you ready to end the unhealthy patterns and get back to respecting each other?
Here is some of what we cover in this episode:
- A walk through the Insanity Cycle and how couples stay stuck in it
- How a couple tends to include a Pursuer and a Withdrawer
- How you are both feeling and saying the same thing but not hearing each other
- How the Pursuer and Withdrawer trigger each other to continue the Insanity Cycle
- Ways you can stop the Cycle of hurt and destruction in your marriage
- How you can play the "Maturity Game" speak lifegiving truth to your spouse
If you would like to hear Part 2, where we take your questions and dive deeper, you can find it on the LG Shop! This digital download includes Part 1 & 2 Videos as well as a listening guide to help you apply it to your life and marriage. While you're there, take a look at some of the other digital downloads as well!
Monday Oct 05, 2020
Monday Oct 05, 2020
It's a BONUS episode of The Lifegiver Podcast! We knew wrapping up the parenting series would not be complete without talking about our youth and college age kids. There is a lot of anxiety on returning to college during COVID season and that is on top of the stress families already have about paying for college!
Anthony O'Neal, author, speaker, and Dave Ramsey Personality joins us to talk about how right now could be one of the best times to go back to college debt-free. Anthony wrote the best-selling book, "Destroy Your Student Loan Debt" and travels the country talking with parents and college students about how they can avoid the mistakes he did.
Listen in as he shares his story, tells you how college is way more affordable than you think, and how you can take advantage of this season to make it more affordable. By the way, Anthony also grew up as a military kid with his father in the Army and understands the stressors of military life!
Find out more about Anthony O'Neal Here: https://www.anthonyoneal.com/
or listen to his show on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/user/aonealministries
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn
Monday Sep 28, 2020
Monday Sep 28, 2020
It is the end of the Parenting Series on the Lifegiver Podcast! There have been so many wonderful guests during this season and Corie wraps it up with an episode about raising teens. Reflecting on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Corie explains how you can help your child through the difficulty of establishing better routines in the chaos of COVID and school as well as how helping them find their place of belonging can mean everything.
Here is the Awareness Wheel, created by Couples communication that is referenced in this episode.
Listen to Corie's original episode on Maslow's Ladder: https://www.life-giver.org/the-secret-of-resilience/
Find resources for your service marriage at www.life-giver.org
Interested in joining the Lifegiver Facebook group to discuss this episode and more? Click here.
Interested in giving back? Donate a couple of dollars to the podcast at Patreon.
Music by Rudy Vaughn